Being Cheated On For Christmas? Private Investigator.

Thank you for taking the time to avail or remind yourself of some of the signs of a cheating spouse. Remember you have options when faced with a cheating husband or a cheating wife.

The same logic applies to those of us who have a cheating boyfriend or a girlfriend who cheats. The behaviors are almost identical. The signs of cheating are there and the methods we as private investigators use to catch a cheating spouse are similar regardless of the situation. We get results quickly, discretely and can help guide you in the right direction, to ensure you of the best outcome, whatever that may be.

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The following article is not without sarcasm, we want to use different perspectives at times. Bear with me and you will get the point.

Here we are again. "Tis the time of year when cheaters cheat. About as much as any other popular time for cheating during the year, we as private investigators specializing in catching a cheating spouse, are asked to see what someone's spouse is doing during the Christmas and New Year holidays.

So are they cheating? Most of the cases we are retained for, to supply these and other answers, are solved in short order.

Most of the time, the answer is yes, they are cheating on you.

Catch a Cheating Spouse

The life of a cheating spouse. Think about it, it is not too hard to imagine. When you have someone special outside of your marriage, the holiday season is a critical time for you. You need to express your feelings in anyway available to you; in the form of lunches, dinners, secret meetings in hotels, or at either of your houses when your unsuspecting mate is away, or by buying thoughtful gifts and taking vacations.

Some extra marital affairs have to be enjoyed quickly and on short notice. Some cheating husbands and cheating wives can't get away for long so the expression of love, or lust, has to be made anywhere possible. At the company party, the neighborhood party, the big gathering and then a quick disappearance into the bathroom, kitchen or closet. Even in a parking lot if necessary. Sounds like a truly romantic getaway. Kind of "high school" -Whatever.

Signs of a Cheating Spouse

These cheaters get fairly good at deception though. They get email accounts that no one knows about, they list their lover's name in their phone or email contacts as someone they are not, for instance -Julie is really Steve or the "office" is really Michelle. It is not that tough to be sneaky.

Text messaging is always a nice way to let your secret lover know you are thinking about them, a way to tell them how your wife doesn't sleep with you anymore and you miss that special someone. Never mind that your wife is really totally in the dark about your claims to your girlfriend and your unsuspecting wife thinks that everything is going pretty good.

Wives that engage in affairs often tell their boyfriends the same types of stories. They tell them how awful their miserable life is with their husband and family. They need a good listener and they don't have a relationship with their thoughtless husband any more. They promise, just like the men do, that they are no longer having sex with their spouse. During our investigation and surveillance we usually see an entirely different picture, and we take pictures, to show our clients the truth.

Yes, this is the season, like Halloween parties are popular for cheating and the hottest days of summer always seem to be very busy for private investigators that work in family law or catch cheating husbands and wives. We can't forget the other special occasions either, like birthdays, special anniversaries, and of course, Valentine's Day.

Now make no mistake, cheaters know they cannot always expect their lover to see them on the actual important day itself, they know that would be too obvious. So they visit just days before or just days after, whatever works best for both of them.

Sometimes it is just for 30 minutes or so, when your mate has to skip out for a quick trip to the market or to stop by the office for something. This can be the only chance they have to call, text for a while in private or actually see each other. They may be obsessed with this other person and be totally pre-occupied with them. They can become emotionally removed from your relationship.

Some of these relationships become very demanding however and this causes extra friction between the cheaters and in your home too. Cheaters sometimes have to actually come up with a really good whopper to tell their wife or husband so they can spend the special day with their lover. Talk about a tense situation, things can get pretty tricky. But you have to do what you must sometimes to keep your girlfriend or boyfriend happy, Right? You have needs, right?

What works for us as private investigators is all of the experience we have at catching a cheater, time and time again for thirty years now. We have heard it all before. Most of our clients have some small idea what is going on but they are usually off by a mile in some part of their own analysis. We fill in the missing pieces of the puzzle and link it all together for you.

Once we come on board to see what's really going on, we talk with our clients, get the details of the current situation and any history, then we go to work. We nail the cheaters in their affair. We get details for you.

  • The best field investigators follow people without being noticed, go inside restaurants and observe their interaction, we take video.
  • Follow people to parks and catch them in the act in parking lots.
  • Tail cheating spouses to their hotel rendezvous and document everything we can.
  • We get the license plates of the other person cheating and can follow them to their home or office and collect still more vital information for our clients.
  • Our investigators can provide detailed reports that are court ready for you.
  • We work directly with you or your designated person, even your attorney.
  • If you don't have an attorney and need the best or someone who is very good and is a certified Family Law Specialist, we know the good attorneys and will get you in the door for a consultation. All of this is included in our hourly rate for surveillance.

If your cheating spouse travels, whether for business or pleasure, we can get you the proof you did not think was possible. Most cheaters drop their guard when out of town.

We have found that the best cure or quick resolution when you want to stop two people from having an affair is to expose the affair to everyone directly affected, I.E. the other person's spouse.

When all four of you know that everyone now knows about the affair, and you have proven it, not just made "crazy" allegations, things happen fast. You must exercise diligence and caution when proceeding with a good plan. You may not expect what everyone may do. Sometimes the cheaters run off with each other until they realize it's not so fun when it's no longer their dark little secret. Reality bites.

Privacy, What Privacy?

Many people who contact us now, and quite frankly it's not a new practice, already place tracking devices on their spouse's vehicles, turn on tracking in the smart phone, and install spyware programs on cell phones and computers to monitor text messages, instant messages and emails. They place tape recording devices in interesting places. We find them when we conduct our electronic debugging service. These are interesting times to be sure.

You can become your own investigator to a degree but we find that too many people, who resort to these methods themselves, regret it when they get caught and make actually catching a cheater more difficult once the cheating spouse knows you are capable of spying on them through these means.

Remember, most cheaters are selfish, arrogant, controlling, self-centered people. Many of them are pretty smart and sneaky. Many cheaters are also paranoid! The cheater might be spying on you. You need to be aware of this and be careful. Let your private investigator handle it. You will be relieved and happy.

If you think your husband is too smart to get caught because he is some kind of shrewd genius, or he is connected in the legal system or other, you are mistaken. We have heard this from our female clients hundreds of times, yet we get the proof and their husbands never had any idea.

If you are afraid to do this, feel guilty or just feel this is all too overwhelming and scary, you should call us for a free and confidential conversation. I know you will feel much better just after having talked with someone who knows what they're talking about.

We have suggestions and when needed, instructions for you once we are retained that will help to make the process work well for you and with little to no chance of exposure. The person we watch will only find out about us if you tell them.

My wife is having an affair

A good licensed and experienced private investigator knows the tested and proven methods for catching cheating wives and husbands, boyfriends and girlfriends. We are expert at catching people doing all sorts of things they either should not be doing or are grossly misrepresenting about themselves.

Ask about our many valuable investigative services and referrals.

We conduct in-depth background checks and asset searches in addition to surveillance and interviewing people in all situations. You can trust our experience. You can learn more here about the full line of professional investigative services we offer.

We encourage anyone seeking the assistance of a private investigator, to check the investigator out before hiring them. See whether they have reviews on-line, real reviews, that are not part of their own website.

Visit the state of California's website for the Department of Consumer Affairs; The Bureau of Security and Investigative Services, or BSIS, at To make this easier, I have provided a direct link to that site. Just click on the image below. You will need the investigator's license number or name.

Mike Garroutte is a licensed private investigator in Orange County, California. He has been a private investigator since 1982 and is the owner of Linked Investigations in Costa Mesa, California. His license number is P.I. 15568.

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December 1, 2012
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