Think They're Cheating? Here Are The Signs.
Over the years, we’ve helped many clients that have found themselves in situations involving a cheating significant other. Clients are often in doubt about the steps that they should take to confirm the truth. In a lot of cases, all it takes is a conversation with a private investigator who possesses knowledge in the field to set them on the right path. We can put the pieces together and help you make the right decision.
Each infidelity situation is unique, but the signs usually don’t vary between relationships. If your gut instinct is that your partner is cheating, especially after they show any of the following signs, it might be time to get in touch with an experienced private investigator.
Common Signs of Cheating
Unusual Defensiveness. No one ever wants to be accused of cheating. It definitely will put a rift in the relationship regardless of whether the accusation is true or not. A partner that isn’t cheating is going to be hurt by the suggestion, but they’re going to reassure you that they’re not cheating. They might admit that they’re unhappy and that the relationship has problems, especially if it’s rocky. But, when they become defensive and attempt to turn the accusation around or start lashing out at you to make you feel crazy, they could be cheating.
Technology is off limits. Cell phones and an abundance of social media options really make it possible for unfaithful spouses and significant others to cheat without ever having to worry about being discovered. Sometimes you may accidentally find an open email, text, pictures, calendar notification, or other conversation that you see. A savvy cheater will closely monitor their technology to prevent you from having access to who or what they’re doing. If they’re suddenly overprotective of their phone or computer, start restricting access by putting accounts on private or changing passwords, or are frequently leaving the room or being secretive about calls and texts, it’s a sign that things aren’t probably what they seem. Beware, most cheaters will also check on you and your electronic means of communication.
Obsession with Appearance. We all go through phases where we work to improve our well-being physically and emotionally. This might include buying new clothes, getting a new haircut, getting nails done, dieting, attention to grooming and hygiene, or an increase in exercise. However, when your partner’s quest for self-improvement becomes an obsession or seems out of character for their normal habits, it might be time to look into things—especially when they would rather spend time doing these things alone than spending time with you.
Maintaining Inappropriate Relationships. Sure, it’s fine for your partner to be friends with people of the opposite sex—or same sex—other than you. They might hang out or meet for lunch or other activity. And there are times when a partner might be overly possessive and overreacting about a normal, healthy, completely platonic friendship. But, if your partner is continually meeting up with anyone for drinks, meals, or social calls, this might be a sign that they’re pursuing something more, outside of your relationship. This can be especially true if you have expressed concern and they dismiss your feelings completely and continue to do what they want.
Lifestyle Changes. Has your partner suddenly changed their work or home habits? Is their routine suddenly different? If your partner is suddenly coming home late, missing important dates and events, or prioritizing work without a reasonable explanation, it might be time to hire a private investigator to look into things.
It’s important to note that if your partner is showing one or two of these signs, there might not be anything wrong. They might just be a private person or might be going through something. But if their behavior changes without warning and one or two signs turns into an entire laundry list, then chances are it’s not unreasonable suspect cheating. This is especially true if they have a history of infidelity.
If you have read this far and you still suspect that your partner is being unfaithful, it’s time to contact a private investigator for help. We’ve learned that gut instincts, suspicions, and worry can erode your relationship just as fast as finding that the person you love is cheating.
A private investigator that handles cases relative to cheating spouses can tailor expert surveillance services to specific times or windows of opportunity to increase the chances of catching your partner in the act. Having concrete proof can help you to get the answers that you seek and to decide what to do next. It also may help to do an asset check to reveal any signs of financial infidelity—spending time and money on someone else.
If you suspect that your partner is cheating and you’ve confronted them about it, but they haven’t admitted or disproved anything, it’s time to take a different plan of action. When a spouse or a significant other realizes that their partner is on to them, they often stop for the moment and turn their attention back to the partner. Occasionally, they stop cheating completely. In most cases, however, they pick up the affair where they left off or start cheating with someone new when they feel like their partner’s guard is down.
Mike Garroutte, owner of Linked Investigations, is a discreet and professional licensed private investigator. He has years of experience running surveillance operations and asset searches to get clients the evidence that they need to catch their cheating spouse. Contact us for a free consultation. We will discuss your situation and determine the best course of action. Our services are tailored to your needs.