Steps to Catch a Cheating Spouse

Entering into marriage should involve trusting your spouse, and giving them freedom and autonomy, while knowing they are committed to remaining faithful. Unfortunately, this is not the reality many people face when it comes to their marital relationship. Linked Investigations can help catch a cheating spouse.

The reasons people cheat are as varied as the number of cheaters. Cheating is often somewhat mystifying to the one left behind, and it is not always for the reasons made popular through movies and television. In fact, many high profile cheating cases include celebrity couples where one spouse cheated on the other with a nanny or a maid and not someone rich, powerful, or famous. Some recent examples of this cheating behavior include Ben Affleck, Ethan Hawke, Arnold Schwarzenegger, and even the very public extramarital affairs of Tiger Woods.

Understanding, recognizing, and accepting the signs of cheating are all important factors in addressing the issue. Often a spouse turns a blind eye to the behaviors of their partner in an attempt to avoid having to face the infidelity, but this only delays the inevitable truth.

Evaluating Your Relationship

One of the first signs indicating that your spouse may be having an affair is a change in the way the two of you interact within the relationship. Your spouse could be more distant or less attentive, or they may suddenly start working late or traveling more. You might also notice that your spouse is working overtime without any increase in pay, or you may discover credit card charges for lunches and evenings out you didn’t attend.

Changes in the relationship could also include the development of secretive behaviors that may indicate cheating. Just a few examples of that might be:

  • A spouse receiving calls or texts that are kept private;
  • A spouse locking their phone or blocking access to social media pages and known email accounts;
  • The discovery of additional cell phones, email accounts, or unusual online activity; and/or
  • The discovery of a piece of mail that was addressed to your spouse at a post office box (or other address) you’ve never seen before.

Some of these signs can be uncovered through surveillance or background checks performed by a private investigator. Surveillance might also reveal the existence of bank accounts, or the fact that your spouse has retained an attorney. He or she could also have a secret location (aka a ‘crash pad’) – such as a house, condo, apartment, or hotel – that they are using for their liaisons.

Of course, unusual behavior may also be due to other issues in life unrelated to an affair. To set your mind at ease, you might want to have a discussion with your spouse about the changes you’ve observed, and hear their explanation. However, if the conversation is met with hostility, denial, or lies, it’s essential to listen to your inner voice and seek professional services to get to the bottom of the behavior.

Acting on Concerns to Catch a Cheating Spouse

When there are several indicators of cheating in a relationship and the spouse is not forthcoming when questioned, hiring a private investigator is always the most important first step.

Linked Investigations offers surveillance services to help you find out if your spouse is cheating or not. Our trained private investigators can tell you what your spouse is doing, and with whom. This is much more effective than using a tracking device, which will only provide you with information on where your spouse might be, but not who he or she interacts with.

It is also important to keep in mind that most states do not allow information from tracking devices to be used in court. They also don’t allow recorded phone conversations unless everyone involved is aware of the recording. With our services, we use only legal and ethical practices, ensuring that the information we find can be used in court, if needed.

One of the most common mistakes people make is to try to do the surveillance on their own. Not only is this extremely difficult, but if your spouse becomes aware of your suspicions, it can simply make them more secretive, posing greater challenges for surveillance at a later date. In some cases, it may also create a hostile and dangerous environment, especially if there is a history of violence within the relationship.

When we track and monitor your spouse, we can provide a court-ready written report of what we find. Our services include the use of photography as well as a video recording of any interactions of interest. Our experienced staff is fully prepared to document the actions we observe (or evidence we discover) and testify in court, if necessary.

Knowledge is Power

Both men and women are afraid to learn the ugly truth about their cheating spouse because it means they’ll be faced with the dilemma that they can’t deny what happened. However, knowledge is power. You don’t have to do anything with the information you learn, unless you choose to. With facts in hand, you can take the time you need to decide how you want to proceed: whether to consider counseling, file for divorce, or make some other strategy for moving forward.

We Can Help You Catch a Cheating Spouse

For more than 30 years, Linked Investigations has been providing surveillance and other private investigative services to our satisfied clientele. We offer a free, no-obligation consultation to help you determine the most efficient and economical way to obtain the information you need in order to move forward with your life. For more information, please call us at 714-432-9911 or use our contact form

Published on: 
August 14, 2015
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