Finding an Old Flame: Be My Valentine
With fragrant flowers, fine jewelry, and boxed chocolate on full display, it is no surprise that people decide to put effort into finding an old flame in the time leading up to Valentine’s Day. Often, they wonder how their ex is doing or what might have been, or perhaps they are hoping to rekindle a romance.
Given today’s technology and the myriad of social networking options available, it is easier than ever to find a lost love. The Pew Research Center’s Internet Project has found that 24% of internet users have searched online for information about someone they dated in the past. Additionally, the study found that 31% of users who participate on social networks have used those sites to check up on former flames.
While love may be in the air, reuniting with a long lost love has certain risks associated with it. So how do you find your old flame in time for a Valentine’s Day reunion? A licensed private investigator may help.
1. Finding an Old Flame
Despite popular opinion, not everyone uses social media. This is especially true of older women or men who may be attempting to rekindle a romance after the death of a spouse or divorce. Even if a person does have a social media profile, the information may be outdated or the user may not monitor it.
A professional private investigator knows how to discreetly uncover information that can lead to the discovery of your old flame’s current residence and relationship status. These steps may include:
- Record Review – A private investigator can review the most recent information that you have on the person you’re looking for. Sometimes an old address can help lead to a new one, or the name or address of a relative. A review of documents, websites, and photos can also bring other important information to light about your former boyfriend or girlfriend.
- Asset Search – Your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend could own property, such as a home or vehicle. If they do, there’s a good chance that information about it is stored in one of many authoritative databases that a professional private investigator will have access to. An asset search can be used to locate property, such as the current home owned by your old flame.
- Interviews – A detective can ‘hit the pavement’ to locate relatives, coworkers and acquaintances of your old flame. This information might help to reveal the current employer, address, or phone number of your former love.
2. Checking Out a Former Flame
Even if you shared magical moments with someone, he or she may not be the same person now that they were back then. An old flame may even lie about his or her marital status while flirting with you on social media.
One study published in Computers in Human Behavior found that there is a strong negative correlation between using social media and marital quality and happiness. Dr. Nancy Kalish found that individuals who become involved in lost love situations often suffer from alcoholism and other addictive tendencies, such as smoking, gambling, and other high-risk behaviors. Therefore, it is very important to ensure that making contact does not put your safety at risk.
Before you make in-person contact, it may pay to learn a bit more about your former flame. A professional private investigator can help by:
- Conducting Surveillance – Careful observation can help reveal if your old flame is secretly married and if he or she is being honest with you about their current situation. It may also bring activities or behaviors to light that could help to determine if it would be safe for you to make contact.
- Performing a Complete Background Check – A comprehensive background check can reveal if your long lost love has been in legal troubles since you were last involved. He or she may have convictions for violent offenses or fraud, which may make you reconsider reuniting.
At Linked Investigations, each of our expert private investigators is state-licensed and has over 30 years of experience in finding people, discreetly conducting surveillance, running complete background checks and asset searches, and more. If you would like to learn more about how we can help you to safely find your old flame, call us at 714-432-9911 or complete our contact form.