'Tis the Season to Forgive, Find Relatives, and Reconnect with Family

During the holidays, as we are all surrounded by songs of "Holiday Cheer" and images of families happily gathered together, it can be a poignant reminder of all that might not be well in our lives. On one hand, there is the omnipresent feeling that we are supposed to filled with love, laughter, and light. On the other hand, everyone's "holiday cheer" can conversely trigger feelings of loneliness and depression for those whose families are not happy, or are separated by long-standing falling outs. If there is someone in your life who you wish to reconnect with, the holidays offer the perfect time to reach-out and find someone!

Forgiveness can be the first step to find a relative or long lost friends

In many cases, we lose touch with family and friends after something egregious has occurred. Perhaps someone said or did something that gravely hurt the other person, or unhealthy behavioral patterns became too much for the relationship to bear. In these cases, individuals can harbor guilt for years on end, always wondering if something different could have been done. By the time they may be willing to apologize, or to forgive, they may have completely lost touch with the other person's whereabouts or contact information.  While it may seem strange, forgiving the person - or asking for their forgiveness - might be the first step you need to take to find someone.

In our line of work, cases result in evidence, answers, and written reports. However, we also recognize the value of our "sixth sense" so to speak. We often tell our clients to trust their gut feelings, and know better than to ignore our own. There are energetic forces which work in surprising ways. By releasing the guilt, anger, shame, and/or frustration you harbor towards another, you might be opening the space for a real physical reconnection.

The website Greater Good has an excellent blog post outlining the definition of forgiveness, and the multiple ways the act of forgiving can benefit our lives. The act of forgiving has been scientifically proven to improve health - both physical and mental. One of my favorite things about the article is that it specifies what forgiveness is not - it does not wipe the slate clean and mean that bad deeds are erased, forgotten, or even that a relationship becomes reconciled. It does, however, help to release negative feelings and allow a person to move on without the harmful emotions that can hold him/her back from finding true joy in life, or from being able to enjoy the holiday season.

Ready to Find Someone or Find Your Relatives?

If you have recently come to a point in your life where you are ready to forgive, or would like to ask forgiveness from someone else, it may have inspired a powerful feeling of immediate need. You may feel like you need to find a relative or friend as quickly as possible so that you can speak with them personally. If this is the case, there are several ways you can go about it:

  • Social Media Networks - most people have a Facebook, LinkedIn, and/or Twitter account so those are always good places to begin your online search.
  • Search Engines - You can try typing their name into a search engine. If they have a common name, this might be fruitless. However, if you know their full name, you may have an easier time than you think finding pieces of information that can lead you to their whereabouts.
  • Hire a private investigator. A licensed private investigator has access to multiple online data bases, as well as the experience and know-how to find someone - even from the smallest whispers of information. If you begin your search to find relatives - or find someone else - on your own, the information you provide can help the private investigator to continue the search quickly and affordably.

We wish you all a peaceful holiday season. May you find it in yourself to forgive, or be receptive to someone's request for forgiveness, so you can benefit from the joyful possibilities that surround you.

Mike Garroutte, owner of Linked Investigations, has been helping people to find relatives or to find someone they have lost touch with since 1982. He is a licensed Newport Beach private investigator who also works regularly as a private investigator in Los Angeles and as an Orange County private investigator. You can contact him at 877-464-5374

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December 1, 2012
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